You criticized me first, btw. So yes, you did raise me to treat you this way if you had considered your behavior as molding mine.  You did raise me to be ungrateful by complaining, negative by criticizing, insulting by insulting, angry by hurting, depressed by neglecting.  You think you loved me but you aren’t capable of love or taking responsibility for the hurt you intentionally or unintentionally caused.

You blame me for trying to change our dysfunctional dynamic but I think I need to accept you are a toxic person incapable of change and you’ll only continue to unapologetically hurt us as long as I let myself be near you.